Why do comrades like to confide in you when they encounter setbacks? "" How can we make the other party willing to reveal their feelings during heart to heart talks? "Recently, many key members of the company often come to me for advice on how to get along with their comrades. In fact, I have a relatively introverted personality and don't communicate much with everyone. I don't have any special techniques, but I pay close attention to observing the expressions of my comrades around me and keenly perceive their emotions. Once, the platoon leader planned to develop a rehabilitation training plan for some comrades based on the injuries and illnesses of the platoon members. That week at the company affairs meeting, I happened to attend as a non voting participant and heard the report from Captain Chen of the class where Private Liu Songhan was stationed, saying, 'There are currently no training injuries, illnesses, or potential injuries in our class.'. Isn't Liu Songhan feeling uncomfortable in the waist I have some doubts. A few days ago, while chatting with Liu Songhan, I felt that he was under a lot of pressure. Originally, due to the increased training tasks, Liu Songhan often practiced on his own to keep up with the pace of the platoon. He occasionally felt a little lower back pain, but he didn't think it was a big problem, so he gritted his teeth and persisted. Thinking of this, after the meeting ended, I held onto Class Leader Chen. After investigation, Class Leader Chen learned that Liu Songhan, who has always had a strong personality, does not want to be "treated specially" just because of some minor physical injuries. Knowing the true situation, Team Leader Chen promptly revised the materials submitted by the injured and sick personnel, and arranged for Liu Songhan to rest and receive treatment. Afterwards, Captain Chen thanked me and talked about his experience of leading troops. He said that the reason why Liu Songhan didn't tell him the truth was because when the soldiers in the class encountered difficulties and problems, he often talked about some big truths from training methods, daily routines, life plans, etc. He thought it could help them grow and progress, but ignored the awareness and relief of everyone's emotions. Captain Chen's words reminded me of an experience with my comrade Xiaoliang. Xiaoliang's training performance has always been unsatisfactory, and he lacks confidence in anything he does. He lacked the courage to participate in the 400 meter obstacle training for the first time. During the training break, everyone sat together to rest, except for Xiaoliang leaning against the wall with a lonely expression. Thinking back on his performance just now, I roughly guessed his thoughts and decided to use my own experience to cheer him up: "Don't be nervous, everyone will be afraid at the beginning. As long as you have the courage to take the first step, there will be no difficulties that cannot be overcome. I will train with you later..." "Thank you for your understanding. If the class monitor could be like you, it would be great if they didn't treat confiding as seeking help," Xiaoliang said. Originally, Xiaoliang did not fail to express his distress, but rather failed to gain emotional recognition from the class monitor. After listening to my words, Xiaoliang felt relieved and relaxed a lot, and actively engaged in the follow-up training. In fact, sometimes when comrades express their inner distress, what they need is not necessarily guidance and education, but simply a desire for understanding and recognition Every time I come here, many key figures who come to seek my advice suddenly have a clear idea. Nowadays, the post-2000 generation has become the main body of grassroots officers and soldiers. They have rich knowledge, active thinking, and delicate emotions. Whether their emotions are high or low, they long for empathy from others. If they can provide some emotional value at this time, they can achieve twice the result with half the effort. Emotions are not only related to the personal mental health of officers and soldiers, but also affect the cohesion and combat effectiveness of the troops. If each of us can provide more emotional value to our comrades around us, empathize with them through listening, and help them clarify their doubts through empathy, we can have more understanding, support, and trust between each other, and some conflicts and problems will be easily resolved. (New Society)